Relationship Family Crisis

Relationship Family CrisisCategory: RelationshipsRelationship Family Crisis
Sahil Khan asked 6 years ago

ASAK

I have recently run into a huge problem with my parents and I need your advice because I don’t know where else to go to. I just finished my first year of college. At the beginning of the year, I met a girl and became involved with her. It was a clean relationship, except for 1 time drinking, 1 time drugs, and 1 time light sexual activity, all of which I was caught and confessed to my parents and apologized and made up for. My parents have expressed their discontent with her, saying she is a horrible influence on me even though our relationship is only mutually beneficial; we study with each other, we talk out problems, she is not only my best friend but someone that helps me feel at ease in a very competitive college (UC San Diego). As a result, I am ashamed to ask my parents to meet with her, so I try to meet her in secret. This time, my parents caught me and say that I have betrayed their trust (which I have). They say that I have to choose between them and her. I love my parents, but she is the one person constantly at school who keeps me grounded during extreme times of stress and I need her. What do I do?