My Mum is a lesbian – what are my responsibilities towards her and my kids in Islam

My Mum is a lesbian – what are my responsibilities towards her and my kids in IslamCategory: ParentingMy Mum is a lesbian – what are my responsibilities towards her and my kids in Islam
erika asked 3 years ago

Assalumu Walaikum,
I am a muslim convert of 5 years subhanallah. I am married and have two beautiful little boys. I have always struggled to connect with my family even before converting to Islam, I find the people in my family quite strange and my childhood wasn’t the best, but alhamdulillah it was not the worst either. Since being muslim, I have struggled with my family even more so, and in particular with my Mother, who I have not really had a good relationship with, but she absolutely adores her grandsons. However, my husband and I are both concerned about her sexual preference which is Haram and she can be inappropriate. Although nothing inappropriate has happened in front of our kids, she sat with her son-in-law one night once the kids were asleep and was watching the most vulgar sex scene to the point my husband felt uncomfortable and I asked her to not watch his type of movie in our house. I am from a western country so I know sex scenes etc can be “normal”, but even for myself being familiar with this culture, this was particularly vulgar and we don’t watch any content of sexual nature in our household at all. I feel mean because I ultimately want to disconnect from her, but she is my Mum and I feel so guilty for feeling this way. Your advice is much appreciated.