Marriage issue

Marriage issueCategory: ParentingMarriage issue
Nada Mughal asked 7 years ago

Asalam o Alikum
Respected Sir I have a matter to consult with you can u help me
my name is Nada sir I need your help my question is that i want to marry a
boy his name is Rizwan even he also want’s to marry me we both are from
pakistan. he is 25 and i am 26 but he dont have issue with the age. He also completed his masters and doing a job as a accountant in a company he started his job last year he also gives me proper respect and care sir we do text on wattsapp like only this much good morning h r u ? did have ur breakfast then at lunch then at dinner time
how r your parents and that’s it we both are from same school but we started
talking in 2014.
Sir the problem is his parents are not giving him permision to marry a girl
out of cast he tried to convince them alot but they are not saying yes they have done same thing with his big brother and sir his big brother marry their where parents said but sir the result is very horrible sir first three-years he was very happy with his wife but from last two years he started cheating his wife he was fully involve in non muslim women he was not having any concern for wife he also have one daughter she is 3 years old sir he also says now he is not having any relationship with that non muslim women
but he dont want more kid’s he says he is ok with one no more like all this type of things he is doing he is giving punishment to his parents by hurting
that girl who is his wife and after all this still his parents are not letting Rizwan to marry where he wants to but after all this Rizwan tried to convince them but they don’t want to listen him they only say’s him that you have to marry a girl of over choice First Rizwan was not saying yes for that girl who is her uncle’s daughter but he was emotionally black mailed by is parent’s that they are old their all expiation are from Rizwan that he have to obey his parent’s. All this things and he said ok I I’ll agree but if they rejected me then you have to say yes for my choice at that his mother said ok and sir same thing happened his uncle rejected their proposal and den he again talked to his mother that you remember you said that if some thing happened like you are gona say yes for my choice. But she said I don’t know ask you father about this and sir he said no that girl is not from our cast so sir he said what you are talking about cast our own cast has rejected me he said to his parents that if you are not going to say yes for her then i will never marry any other girl he also tried to convince them many but they dont want to listen.
They now says that what our other family members are going to say we can’t not go against our family they also said that if you want to marry nada then ok I’ll only com as a guest in you marriage and after that we are not having any relation with you any more and all this will happen after 1year not now
sir plz help me what Rizwan can do
in this sution plz sir we both really love each other but his parents says
that your big brother didnot obbeyed us now over all expations are from you
we know you ill not do like how he did but sir we both love each other and
wants to marry his parents also said to him that you can marry any girl from
the same cast but not with me coz i am not of their cast sir i paryed allot i also offer tahajjud everyday do lots of dua fast’s every monday nd Thursday and also do tasbee every time sir Rizwan is hafiz and from ikhlak wise he is very nice person thats y my parents also give me permison to marry him but they are saying that rizwan to come along with his parents like a proper way sir plz help me. he can also not live without me even i also but he can also not live without this parent’s nd sublings plz sir help me what to ? What are the limits within which parents may interfere in their son’s marriage Is he sinning if he goes against their wishes I want to marry a girl but to my family disapproved it.
Do I have the right in Islam to disobey the wishes of my family and marry her? thx waitng for your reply