Husband's Anger

Haniya asked 5 years ago

I am writing this on the day of Eid ul Adha. My husband and I moved to a new country 3 years ago after being married for a few months. We are now in our 4th year of marriage Alhumdulilah but I am deeply concerned about my husband’s anger issues. It has reached a point where it’s beginning to affect my health, both mental and physical. Small and silly things not done upto his liking trigger him and he uses the harshest of words for me. My parents and siblings are all back home and he doesn’t have any fanoly where we currently live either. I am a working woman mostly doing it for the sake of distracting my mind against any unnecessary thoughts. He is introverted and refuses to socialise with anyone and prefers living alone without anyone around which is completely opposite of me. I am trying to adjust to his personality but he’s holding a grudge against the one piece of family I have that live close to us(my aunt’s) and declines every invitation or effort they do to meet up with us. He leaves the house when anyone wants to visit leaving me to host them alone. His reason behind doing this is “they insist on meeting a lot and I dont like it”. I find it very silly of an excuse and have also conveyed this to them not to force him but he simply refuses to leave the grudge that he’s been holding against them for the past 2 years. I don’t know what to do. I tried talking to him nicely, explaining to him that in Islam you are supposed to forgive and let go off your pride especially in the case of elders but he is so adamant and yells at me back. When he’s angry for other reasons, he calls me names, humiliates me and isolates me for days together. Please advice on how I should deal with this matter because I feel really lonely…