Force marriage and relationships

Force marriage and relationshipsCategory: WomenForce marriage and relationships
Faiza ess asked 8 years ago

As Salaam Alaykam, I am 22 years old female. I have been in a situation for quiet some time and I\’m not sure what to do or who to ask help for (of course I make Dua and pray when I can I am not perfect but I try my best) ive been in a relationship with someone for 6 years now and Yh it was all hidden from the family and stuff and when my brothers found out they hit me a lot and stopped me from going college uni or even work until now it\’s been 5 years. My life is very restricted I can\’t have a phone speak to any friends or even go out its been more than a month I even went out. I have no cousins here so I just basically sit at home all day and everyday. Of course I understand from their point of view why they restricted me because they don\’t want me to marry him so they don\’t want me to talk to him or anything but it\’s too much now. My family said to me I can never get married to anyone who is not a Sayed so they didn\’t even consider him an option. Now they have done my Nikkah with this person who I don\’t even wanna get married to he is recently came from back home does not speak English his mentality is different his thinking his lifestyle everything is different, I am not happy with this marriage it was done by mentally torturing me and blackmailing me. I have tried to move on from the person I\’m in a relationship with but it\’s very hard and we both isn\’t want to get married and settle the right way I don\’t wanna run away or anything I could of done so if I wanted but I know it\’s wrong and it\’s very hard to live like that.. My family is forcing me to the limit where I am thinking of doing things I don\’t want to do because my family is all about the \”respect\” so it will make it worse for them, my brother is very strict and even recently he hit me very bad jus because I said I\’m not happy with the marriage and they want me to be happy and make plans for the walima but I can\’t do that. So I wanted to know where I stand in this situations and what I can do.. My brothers or family don\’t listen to no one and my older brother is willing to kill me and go to prison for 30 years these are his own words so it makes it very hard for me to even do anything when I\’m living in this fear 24/7 of being killed at any time. Both of my older brothers have had love marriages and both my sister in laws are not Sayed because I\’ve been told it\’s okay for a boy to marry a non Sayed girl but a girl can\’t do the same and I\’ve been told that this is how it\’s been going on from the prophet PBUH time and I can\’t change that..I am the only girl so all my brothers are allowed to marry a non Sayed girl but I can\’t do it because I\’m a girl.. I want to know islamically what I can do as just something else which unfortunately I have to add is that I was pregnant in the past with the person I\’ve been with and carried his child for 6 months but I was so scared and fearing I couldn\’t carry on with it but that decisions still haunts me until today and I regret it very badly every day of my life I think about that child and cry and make Dua. But not that I want to be with anyone else but because of what I\’ve gone through what I did with that person I don\’t want to marry anyone else I don\’t think the marriage with ever be successful he will found out about me being with someone else and plus I will never be able to give him a wife side of me. Please advise me with something I can do. It would mean the world to me because I feel very unsafe and stuck in this situation I can\’t even go to a mosque to asks anyone regarding this situation. Jazaak\’Allah Khair 
please don\’t judge this is very hard for me as it is I know I made very big mistakes in the past but I repent to Allah for those mistakes and will always ask for forgiveness and hope the most merciful forgives me Insha\’Allah..