Family Dynamics

Smehra asked 5 years ago

Asalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh

I would like to seek advice and guidence regarding family issues. Basically i come from a Pakistani background. I have faced a lot of difficulities in life and my family are not very understanding, basically there are alot of misconceptions and missunderstandings that have spirled accross to my parents from brothers and sister. Being the youngest has and is a challengle in itself, i cannot do anything about my parents because they are set in there ways but my siblings do cause trouble and make difficulties in my life. They suppress me quite alot and bring me down and overall throughout my life this has gone on now i’m 26, divorced, no children, living alone (not by choice) suffering from depression and anxiety. My family dynamics have and always be complicated but as an individual i have never known what to do and who to turn to. My parents my siblings are all very difficult people, but i still go running to them and again they hurt me more, cause more psychological and emotional damage. I have stopped speaking to them totally now but each time my mother calls me, she tells me what my siblings have said about me and how low they think and when i hear that i cry, i cry and say thats not true. Could you give me some guidence please as to what i can do to stop feeling pain in my heart and mind. 

Jazakumullahu Khair

Asalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh