Me and my wife have been married now for 5 years and have 3 children from the context of this relationship, Allhumdullillah.
We reside in a joint family system which consists of my brother and his wife and kids, and my parents.
I feel as if my wife is always the one causing the issues for no reason. Matters that anyone else would see as trivial my wife would make it an issue as a result will then fight with me thus causing strains within the family rather than being thankful.
I don’t want to tarnish her character because she can be really nice but when she does fight or argue I have never heard someone with such disgusting mouth like her’s. As a result after trying to ignore her I would then retaliate and say words which I later regret in fear of Allah. But I feel when I do behave like this it is always as a reaction to her venomous words.
She will then sometimes wish I die, lose my job and pray that Allah destroys me only because I will try and explain something and it will not be in her favour.
I have tried speaking to her several times, however, she continues to behave as she does. It is really stressing me out not only when I am home but at work also. I have been pushed so much that I have been reading about divorce but the only thing that stops me is my kids.
I can’t imagine life without them.
I really need some advice on what I should do because I can’t be living such a life where I would rather be at work than home purely because I don’t want to listen to her words and then I say something in return.