Accepting my husbands child from zina

Accepting my husbands child from zinaCategory: RelationshipsAccepting my husbands child from zina
Afsheen Bashir asked 2 years ago

Asalaamualaykum,
I have been married for nearly 12 years, I have young 4 children Alhamdulillah.
My husband is a drinker and has been for many years, I am at a time in my life where I am trying to better myself in seen but to also be better for my children. I worry our sins will be spread unto our children and have asked my husband many times to stop or to cut down. Each time he tries it lasts 2 weeks and he is back to being a socialite. Generally a quiet man and can be boring at home, when he is going out he has a sense of happiness and comfort which over the years I am finding difficult to deal with, with this he does not come home till 6/7 am. 
Before we got married I found out he had a child without Nikah however I agreed to still marry him as he confirmed there was no relationship with the child mother.
For many years he had no contact, this child is now 14 and has asked to be apart of his life. Since she has come back, we have gone from bad to worse to a point where I feel nothing and have asked him to leave me.
I am not sure if I am dealing with this correctly infact have no idea what to do but I am finding it difficult accepting his behaviour, this child and the effects this will have on my extreme young children. 
I need to speak to someone in depth so that I can be advised accordingly.
Sister A