ASalaam! I reverted to Islam last week and want to pursue a spiritually fufiling life. I have a girlfrind from before the reversion who I love dearly and is Catholic. She has been very supportive of my faith and encourages me to pray and follow my beliefs. I wish to continue our relationship in a lawful way and want to propose that we sign a nikkah, detailing our expectations for each other but delaying the ceremony until a time that we feel more stable and prepared and are living in the same place (our relationship is currently lono distance). Is this valid approach? Could you provide textutal evidence to support the claim?
I’ve also read that a Nikkah needs to be witnessed by two Muslims. Because I recently reverted I don’t know any muslims yet, and live in a complex place where it might not be safe for me to go to a mosque. Is it possible to have witnesses online, through a forum like this?
May you have peace and blessings for your help!
Ws. Yes you can as in chapter 5, verse 5 of Quran
This day [all] good foods have been made lawful, and the food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith – his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers.
But she has to be a true Christian as in 5:72-75
They have certainly disbelieved who say, ” Allah is the Messiah, the son of Mary” while the Messiah has said, “O Children of Israel, worship Allah , my Lord and your Lord.” Indeed, he who associates others with Allah – Allah has forbidden him Paradise, and his refuge is the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers.
They have certainly disbelieved who say, ” Allah is the third of three.” And there is no god except one God. And if they do not desist from what they are saying, there will surely afflict the disbelievers among them a painful punishment.
So will they not repent to Allah and seek His forgiveness? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
The Messiah, son of Mary, was not but a messenger; [other] messengers have passed on before him. And his mother was a supporter of truth. They both used to eat food. Look how We make clear to them the signs; then look how they are deluded.
~Allah knows better~